Erotic Skillz Part 3

We are born intensely sensual and sexual creatures. My experience growing up was being taught to hide, ignore or numb out my erotic awareness, to hide arousal and desire and to “be cool” about my sexuality. At some point those teachings failed me and I refused to repress my desire any longer.

At that point […]

Erotic Skillz - Part 5 Sexual Energy

I was recently at a workshop doing energy and trance work. I am interested in sexual energy and the connection to my essential experience of life…woo woo enough?

Call it tantra and kundalini if you like. It’s the force and connection to the universal that reminds me that I am alive and unique, and at […]

Intimacy and Sex

I was asked the difference between Intimacy and Sex, and I want to share my thoughts. This is a similar comparison to sensuality and sexuality, which I will examine separately. Those terms are often conflated with intimacy is a euphemism for sex in particular. While it’s true sex can be intimate, that’s not always true […]

Pelvic Playgrounds!

I’m teaching about pelvises this weekend!

Here are all the good links: tix: Stranger Tickets Facebook: Facebook listing Fetlife: Fetlife

Come play!

50 Shades of Fun!

I was interviewed for People Magazine’s series of articles for the opening weekend of 50 Shades of Grey and have now seen the movie twice. There’s been a lot of hoopla surrounding the film’s portrayal of BDSM, but that’s not what this film is really about. All told there are about 15 actual spanks, flogs, […]


What do I do?

I was asked that question, which made me think pretty hard. What I came up with is this.

In a nutshell, what I do is transform people’s lives by helping them change their relationships to their body and sensuality.

I am a somatic intimacy coach, meaning I provide a wide range of teaching around intimacy […]

Here in my body…

Why is being in our bodies so subversive?

Every day in my work, I ask people to be in their bodies and give them space to explore. In doing that, my clients often find power, self-love, joy, pleasure and all of those in exactly the body they walked in the door with.

It’s all […]

Time for ME, opening to sensuality

Next week I am going to the mountains to recharge my spiritual batteries. It’s been a long and challenging summer, and it’s time for me to sharpen my tools. For the past six years I have taken this week to work on myself. I retreat into space held by my community and my teachers and […]

Wanting and longing

Yesterday was emotionally volatile. Seems like everyone around me was in turbulence and feeling powerfully intense emotions, myself included. Keeping centered and in my body was challenging, and staying present to what was mine and what was theirs was the task of the day. In the midst of it all, a client spoke about wanting […]